Just wanted to get in early on the bandwagon and wish you all a very Merry Christmas. I hope you get to spend the day having fun with people you love, in a low-stress symptom-free way.

Cheers,
Graham

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Graham Stoney

I'm a guy in his early 50's, recovering from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Severe Obstructive Sleep Apnea.

7 Comments

Judith Coyle · December 29, 2015 at 6:55 AM

Peace and goodwill to you too, Graham. x

brigeeta · December 27, 2015 at 3:44 PM

Rephrase : but the lack of it and the lack of good company sends me into depression

brigeeta · December 27, 2015 at 3:43 PM

Thanks Graham. How was your Christmas? Did you manage to keep your harmony all day? I didn’t. I don’t spend Christmas with family because its not nice. Need I say more!
Nevertheless, it doesn’t stop me from feeling abandoned and lonely. This Christmas was the best yet for feeling “normal “that I don’t spend it with family. I did go and have lunch with some people that had nowhere else to go, but wished I hadn’t. Although the food was fantastic- that was all that was. For me, Christmas isn’t about the food, but the lack of it and good company is a mix I don’t enjoy. Luckily, I caught up with some “cool” people (some buddhist friends) in the evening. It was an uplifting time. How did the rest of you fare? Oh and I went to visit a good friend the next day and received some presents. How cool is that?

    Graham · December 28, 2015 at 8:56 AM

    Hi Brigeeta,

    Sorry to hear that your Christmas wasn’t ideal. Mine was really good: I had the best day with my family that I’ve had in years. It was the first time in a long time that I’d bought gifts for everyone, and it was fun seeing them enjoy opening their presents. I got nervous at one point after my niece had unwrapped a handbag that I bought her, as she hadn’t said anything and I was worried that she didn’t like it. I get anxious about buying gifts for people; my mother would often be in a foul mood on birthdays when I was a kid, and wouldn’t accept gifts we’d bought gracefully, so I think I still get triggered when buying gifts for people. Turned out everyone, including my niece, thought the handbag was great, so I was relieved.

    I’m glad you had an uplifting time the day after Christmas!

    Cheers,
    Graham

      Brigeeta · December 28, 2015 at 9:13 AM

      Hi all, thanks Graham. I’m so glad to hear about yours being a success. I also have problems buying presents and have decided after this christmas to make more effort in doing so. I think I’m going to have to limit the time I spend on it though. I have not done it in previous years because I’ve got worn out going round all the shops looking for the perfect gift.

        Graham · December 28, 2015 at 9:53 AM

        I so relate to that. Perfectionism projected onto gift giving. Kind of takes the fun out of it, doesn’t it?

          Brigeeta · December 30, 2015 at 7:47 AM

          Yes, Graham, it does. thanks for understanding and making me not alone with this! I feel so comforted and therefore accepted and therefore loved and so will make it easier to shop for presents next time. It really is the thought that counts. Especially if you let things go easily

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